Ros sent me an sms yesterday, "Testing testing, .... Still alive?" .. at least some friends bother to know. haha. my notebook was down for 3 days due to virus. and so i was on my usual weekend boredom trip, sitting in Andy's hair salon, flipping through my handphone's address book, hunting for names to be eliminated from my phone.
I reached a old friend.. let's call him 'Fu'. i remember him to be my best friend in primary school, we didn't really contact each other after primary school as we posted to different schools. fate brought us back during army time, which we met briefly in SISPEC.. in fact, i met another two primary school class mates in SISPEC days.. i wonder if there was any conspiracy.. anyway, then goes another few years of no contact, and about 3-4 years back, saw him in Shenton Way, and got him mobile number.. we promised to keep in touch, but that moment was how long the 'touch' went..
Anyway, Fu is the ONLY primary school friend i have on my mobile phone, and we have not seen/call each other since the 'keep in touch'.. so as i was saying, two things crosses my mind when i reaches his name.. how is he now? and should i delete his name?
i called.. yes, very thick face.. not like i'm selling insurance which then i have no choice.. and the fact that it is a trunk call.. makes it all so not worth it.. to call someone and start with, "Hello.. I'm your primary school friend, do you remember me?"... i just prayed that he dropped the number and horray i will delete the name.. since there is no apparent reason we would contact each other ever again. but No.. he answered.. sounds like him 20 years ago.. .(bloody shit.. so long liao)..
Conversation goes something like this:
Me: "may i speak to Fu?'
Fu: "er.. yes? speaking?" (i bet no one calls him by his old chinese name for a long long time)
Me: "i'm MC, your primary school friend.. do you remember me?" (i felt like a teenage boy here)
Fu: "err.. "
Me: "Ok, look.. i'm in vietnam now.. and i was flipping through my mobile number and your name came up, i was wondering if i should delete it or not.. so i called to see if you are still you.. we were in the same class in primary school.. then we met in SISPEC.. and i believe i got your mobile when we met a few years back in shenton way.. . you remember?
Fu: "er..r ohh ... yes .. yes.. i think i know who you are already.. wah.. you win lor..haha. very free har? in vietnam still call?"
the rest were some basic catch up on each other.. like he is getting married next few months.. scold me for not wanting to settle down.. and blah blah.. hahah.. so.. it turned out to be rather comical for both of us.. and we ended briefly (trunk call).. and promised to 'keep in touch' again.. and this time round.. i will make sure it goes to a coffee. two words, "happy ending". i continued to call a few more friends.. and got many interesting updates.. in fact a group of them were on a meet up and i said hi to all of them. haha.
I believe everyone of us stored hundreds of mobile number in our phone, just because we have every increasing phone memory. We networked thousands of friends on friendster and facebook, just because they are free and exciting. Believe it or not, few months back, i just became the 700th friend of a 19 year old girl.. can you believe it? 700th?? that is 6 new friends every month for 10 years from the age of 9! It will a nightmare if 10% of them start borrowing money from you isn't it? haha.
Yes, the world is getting smaller, we have means to facilitates our network.. but how many of us actually contact each other beyond what the technology can do for us? a friend is only a friend when you call and say hello, otherwise, it is just another set of digits stored in binary in your phone. Or another picture on the facebook.
Yes. technology like these are good nonetheless, but what are we as human being leveraging from it? What makes us think that technology can actually do the bonding for us? If so, where are we all going more apart instead? Yes, it might cost me a few bucks to call a friend who might not know me anymore.. but from another angle.. i profited from that few bucks regardless the outcome may be.. the bottomeline is.. the contact is made.
I still have fear of calling people.. sometimes, you just don't know what to say.. well.. i realised that you will never know because everyone is different. Just have to make that contact first and the rest actually take cares of itself. So don't be surprise if you get a call from me next time! Cheers!